Male Point of View on Commitment

....and what takes them so long to commit?

The Gentleman's View:
by G Guillory

The definition of Commitment is as follows : 1. the act of committing. 2. the state of being committed. 3. the act of committing, pledging,or engaging oneself. 4. a pledge or promise

Some Men are afraid of Commitment. Others see it as a chance to matriculate, and become real Men. The real question is WHY? Some view it as the end of the road, a sort of being put out to pasture. Like saying "you can't hang or your too old for the game". Some just choose not or have no desire to be with one mate.

As men (some of us) we're told get a good career, find a good woman and have a family. And that sounds like a good idea at first. But then they come across friends or family members that show them how to be a player, they meet the wrong woman or get cheated on. Then they're left with a bad taste in their mouth and that's when the fear, hurt or anger sets in. Men get turned off from the thought of commitment. Others get lucky and find the right one they want to commit but tend to drag their feet. In some cases this is a fear of committing period . In others it's a fear of not being prepared or being as stable as they want to be, to be able to provide like they believe or as they have been taught they should.

This last part may sound odd but it happens in more cases than most would think. In this last case, these men want to be able to give all that their family and significant other wants and needs. In these cases not all women stick around for the "now I've got it together" man because they believe that all this could have been accomplished while in the commitment.

In my opinion, it's a story for the ages. All of the teachings that boys are taught early on come through growth and maturity. These teachings add to his willingness to commit or lack thereof...

NEW THINGS!!!

Ok so I have been gone for a little bit but I am finding it hard to maintain all of the things that interest me and the things that I have to do to live. Hope that makes sense but if it didn't sorry..lol

Luckily, I am calling on the assistance of some people that I hold very dear to my heart to be contributors to my blog and they are more than willing to help a sistah out. We are getting ready to begin a new little segment "He Say, She Say" to get the male and female point of view on a few topics. So we will not just be getting the View of the Lady but that of the Gentleman. Asking that everyone stay tuned and invite a friend. Please invite a friend to become a follower and provide feedback on the topics.

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