Hurt Feelings

You know it never gets easier to have your feelings hurt. I continue to let people in and it never fails instead of them stepping up they just decide to distance. I am not the obsessive type. If you tell me to let it go then I can do that. Just would expect a little decency for others to do the same thing.

As usual I will bounce back. I am a superstar and great on the inside and outside. I just would appreciate a little respect. Once again it is back to me and my kids and nothing else. That is my real joy.

So over it

You try and try and try to make others happy. You try to support these people in all of their trials. Nothing you do seems to work because they are under the impression that since they have been this way for years there is no changing. I am not asking anyone to change just to let me in a little.

I don't know what else to do. I feel like things are dying down and I have no control over it. I feel like I should be hurt over it. I feel like I should be crying but really I am so over it. I keep putting myself out there and it does not seem that there is anyone who deserves me.

I know I am a catch. I am sweet, sincere, gorgeous, confident, hard-working, loyal, and I could keep going. So from now on I am not going to worry about the insignificant. I am going to continue to be the best that I know how to be and encourage others to do the same. Never cut yourself short.

Can't Help

It hurts to know that you can not help the ones you love. You do everything to let them know that you are there for them. You let them know that you would carry the load if they would allow you to. The problem is they don't want to burden you. They feel like the problem is for them to handle on their own.

I am the type of person who is there to support my family, friends, and mate no matter the circumstances. I just ask for the chance to be given to me. I hurt just as much as my loved one hurts. I will continue to pray for all in my life who need it and ask that all my friends send up a united prayer.

So what you are say is.....?

You have a man that wants to be with you. He enjoys your time, your mind, your talents, and he accepts your faults. He wants to get to know the details of what makes you happy, what makes you upset, and how he can make it all better. Now that everything sounds too good to be true, do you begin to question how good it really is? Is it enough that you are introduced to his immediate family and best friends? Is it enough that everyone who you think seems to matter in his life know of you? Is it enough just to be comfortable with just the "basic comforts" of companionship?

At some point you have to think words are just words. Now wonder why he doesn't invite you to go out? Why doesn't he ask you to participate in outings with friends? Am I just around for the time being? Is he afraid of letting me in too deep? Is he hoping "she" will show up and they can rekindle something? What is it he is not telling me?

This is not a pressure situation. You just need clarification. Sometimes just being there and accepting things as they come in a "relationship" is not enough. You have the right to ask questions. You have a right to know. If these things are not willing to be explored by both parties is it worth going forward? What steps do you take to a happy compromise? Does someone end up being hurt by the outcome?

Also take into consideration just because you love someone does not mean they are the one for you. If you love someone put them ahead of yourself. If you realize that the "relationship" is not going to be what you want then let it go but if it is worth fighting for then hang in there all the way. Most of all pray on it. Nothing changes without prayer.

Random

All day I have had that random feeling. Some days I don't understand my thoughts and sometimes it feel like others don't understand me either. I keep having visions and images playing out in my head but if I was to try to express them to others they would not get it. I want things out of life but I don't want to take that journey alone in life. So what do I do? Should I continue to wait for that right person to come along or is that person right in front of me but neither one of us know it?

Life is crazy enough. I am strong and confident. I do what is necessary to take care of my responsibilities. I like most want companionship, I want to be loved, I want to be all that my man desires, I want someone who doesn't want to live without me, but most of all I want someone who is God fearing. I don't think all of that is too much to ask for.

It is great to have someone to pass the time away with but if there is just one who is unsure of the process then that is all the both of you are doing is just passing the time away. Just a little food for thought for us "single" women.

Someone Special

It is a beautiful thing to have that someone special who wants to do nothing but make you happy. That one person who knows when they have "messed up" and apologize without you having to say anything. It is great to have that someone who it is hard to stay upset with because they are that sincere in their apology.

I am so thankful to finally have someone in my life who I can openly communicate my frustration, my aggression, my opinions, and my thoughts. I am not sure how long it will last but I am definitely willing to go that extra mile to see where it is headed.

Be sure to thank God for bringing that person into your life, respect them, and most of all love them with your whole heart.

When A Woman Is Happy...

When a woman is happy everyone is happy. If she is not happy then everyone seek cover. It doesn't take much to make a woman happy just listen to what she is saying. Listen attentively and respond to let her know you are concerned with her concerns.

As a woman I appreciate a man, my man, for listening to me. He takes my needs and wants into consideration. It is not always a bed of roses but communication is the key to a great relationship. I understand that my sweetie is not the best of communicators but we work on it together. I enjoy us working on things together. I'm not the best at video games but it is something that he enjoys so I do my best so that we can apply that to our conversations.

Try to incorporate things that you both love doing and do those things together. Make your mate your best friend. Don't hide anything from them. They are more likely to forgive you or understand your decisions if you keep the lines of communication open. Don't allow the mistakes of the past to show up in your relationship so I challenge you to do something different to better your relationship from this point forward.

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No Apologies

We as women are emotional creatures. We like hard, we love hard, we care for and provide hard. So needless to say our feelings get hurt pretty hard. Men rarely realize when they have hurt a woman's feeling. Communication is the key in any situation but sometimes I just get the feeling that it goes in one ear and out of the other. Its as if the story gets turned around and what we said doesn't even matter.

Also, why do men apologize for something if they are just going to turn around and do the same thing over again. That makes the apology invalid. It makes it seem as if you really don't care about the woman in the first place. It hurts more when a woman feels as if you don't care. I should know because I have had a crying fest all week.

Not trying to male bash just hurting right now because it just seems like the one you care about the most hurts you the most.

No Positive Male Role Models

I don't understand how a man can want to be sorry. You have children who are wonderful but you choose not to see them except when it is convenient for you. That makes it bad for you and not the kids. The kids are really not missing out on anything.

Men fail to realize that there is going to be a positive male influence around the children even if it is not him. My children have plenty of men in their lives and they are not even men whom I share a physical like to. They are grandfathers, uncles, cousins, and spiritual leaders.

My children are a wonderful group and all who come in contact with them fall in love. A man who doesn't help voluntarily or that dodges the laws so that they don't have to pay child support is just sorry. As a man you should be willing to and want to take of your legacy. If you are unable to support them or even spend time with them then you should be willing to give them up so that they can have all of that support from someone who actually is around and wants to be around.

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A Wonderful Creation

Men are a wonderful creation. Without men there would be no women to birth the men. Now with that being said why is it that men don't seem to get "it"? No matter what a woman may say she ultimately wants to be in a relationship and possibly she wants that relationship with him. She only says she doesn't because she tries to keep her guard up so that she won't be hurt.

A man will spend all of his free time with you, compliment you, be there for you, take care of you but will not make an exclusive commitment. They would rather have the relationship without the titles, strings, and responsibilities. I'm actually not bitter about it because I think it may be the best thing for me right now.

To have a man that you can hold, spend time with, share thoughts and dreams, and basically do all the things you love or are accustomed to is kind of nice. That way if things start happening for better or for worse you can move the relationship in whichever direction.

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